Gabriella Wright is an actor, model and Co-Founder of the Never Alone initiative alongside Deepak Chopra and Poonacha Machaiah.
Suffering is a memory. That’s what it is. And if we cut the memory, then we’re free. But sometimes the memory is very, very strong. So you have to use remedies techniques.
It hurts. Things hurt. But I’m not saying that things aren’t supposed to hurt. It’s just an experience in time.
I almost want to start from, I would say, a philosophical point of view. “Can we be free from suffering?” But what is suffering?
Suffering is a recurring experience of entrapment and a recurring experience of not being able to selfexpress, to not being fully selfexpressed, and to not being hurt. Now, sometimes that can be translated into physical experience of suffering. Pain, recurring aches, illness, chronic illness, chronic inflammation; that can be experienced in the mind, chronic thoughts, anxiety, panic attacks that are just recurring, just like this deep weight. We don’t know what it is, but we know we’ve equated it to suffering.
And then there’s existential suffering.
What is the unknown? I don’t know. So I’m suffering. I don’t know the answer, so I experience the unknown as suffering.
There’s also the suffering that we see in the world, the suffering that is related, for example, to the pandemic. We’ve all experienced the collective suffering, a collective experience of grief, loss of lives, loss of our habits, loss of human contact. All this is an experience of suffering.
And then there’s the suffering that we’ve always experienced, which is war and peace. We look at war, suffering, loss of lives due to ignorant or conscious choices.
So suffering is all around, right? Suffering is just here. The whole point of suffering is to be free from it. I think that we wouldn’t experience suffering if there wasn’t a way to be free. Otherwise, what’s the point?
I just want to break it down very simply. What’s the point? If we’ve experienced something so recurrent, we need to break free. So we, as human beings, need to break free of our mind. We need to break free physically from things that are pulling us down. We need to break free from the story, the story of humanity as it is now. And we need to break three of our concepts that can sometimes confine who we are and who we are as a human being will lead us to our true nature, which is ultimate joy.
Syncrodestiny: A connection of all
There is mental health issues, there’s mental health perceptions, but then there’s the mental space. And in the mental space, we need to be able to shift our perception so that we can help one another. Shift one, balances out the other.
We are all connected. It’s in this interconnectedness, where we’re learning: how can I embody this? How can I experience my freedom? How can I be this joyous self that I am? And I will be triggered by the different experiences I have.
That’s why we create the mental space and we co-create reality together. We’re co-creating a better future and a legacy for our children’s children. It’s with this perception that we are able to dive not only into ourselves, but into deep, deep humanity. The existential freedom from suffering.
Don’t eliminate suffering, heal it
I still suffer, there’s no doubt about that. But they become fleeting experiences. It doesn’t become a state of belief.
I wake up and I say, I’m alive. Do I still have those thoughts from yesterday? Do I still feel heavy? And if the answer is yes, I say “okay, so then I’m still in that frequency”. But I realized that it’s a frequency. So it’s a pattern of thought.
To break the thought, what do I do? Remedies. Immediate remedies. I start either reciting a mantra or an affirmation or -very practical- I look in the mirror, I look at myself, I look at my eyes and I say, who am I? And then what do we want to say spontaneously?
We don’t want to dig ourselves a grave, not in the morning. We want to, you know, I’m light, I’m love. And you just start an innerly process. And as you look in the mirror, your eyes are reflecting the light that you see. The sun, the light, the photons, the luminous.
So you start experiencing yourself as light. And as I look, I just experience a smile in my chest, in my face, my head, in my senses. And it just literally you’re forcing the smile to be in all of your body.
Tibetan technique for healing with meditation
First of all, very simple. Close your eyes and see where the pain is located in your body. If you think of something particularly traumatic, it could be a conversation with someone that went very sour. It could be a traumatic event in the past that has shaped your life. It could be grief, losing someone you love.
When you have that image in your mind, it occurs in the body because it’s the same process. The mind and the body is the same process. So when you find it and locate it, just start noticing the limits, the contour of it. Generally, it’s around the chest. Because everything to do with an experience that is very emotionally, it’s always connected to the heart.
So just focus on that area and just sit in it and see where the pull is, where the tug is, where the tightness is. And when you breathe in, you breathe through your nose. And when you breathe out, visualize what you’re breathing out is Gray matter. And you’re just breathing it out. And you do this a couple of times a day just to tune into your body, because when you tune into your body, you tune into your vocal awareness.
If you don’t feel that inner light, my final tip is: Believe. Believe in magic. Believe in the miracle happening right now. Quick change. Deep transformation.