Our Habits Matter More Than We Think They Do.

By Skye McKenzie

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” This timeless insight from Aristotle reminds us that our daily actions shape the quality of our lives. Long before modern science understood the power of our habits, Buddha spoke of “habit energies”—patterns formed early in life that quietly guide our thoughts, behaviours, and ultimately, our futures.

Thich Nhat Hanh illustrated this beautifully through a story. A man is riding a horse at full speed, and someone shouts out to him, “Where are you going?” “I don’t know,” he replied. “Ask the horse!” In many ways, we live like that rider—rushing through life, unconsciously led by ingrained habits rather than intentional choices.

But what if we could train the horse – our habits and our impulses? What if our habits consistently led us toward greater wellbeing, fulfilment, and happiness?

Happiness is not something reserved for the few. Nor is it dependent on perfect circumstances. It is a skill—one that can be learned, practiced, and strengthened over time, much like learning to paint or playing a sport. Neuroscience now confirms what ancient wisdom has long suggested: we can train our brains to adopt new, healthier pathways.

The World Health Organization predicts that by 2030, depression will be the leading cause of the global health burden. While access to mental health support is crucial, we must also address a deeper issue—many people simply haven’t been taught how to actively cultivate their own happiness.

Scientific research shows that each of us has a “happiness set point,” similar to a thermostat. Only 10% of our happiness set point is shaped by our circumstances—the very things we often chase in the belief that “I’ll be happy when…” I’ll be happy when I get that new job, that new house, or that relationship. 40% of our happiness set point is determined by our habits, and when we change our habits, we begin to change our life experiences. That means that 50% of our happiness is within our control. 50% of our happiness set point is influenced by genetics and through the study of epigenetics we understand that our experiences affect the expression of our genes. This is the importance of cultivating happiness habits.

One of the most transformative habits is shifting from problem-focused thinking to solution-focused thinking. It’s easy to fall into cycles of blaming and complaining, but this keeps us stuck. Instead, when we can choose to take responsibility—not for everything that happens to us, but for how we respond—how we view life changes dramatically.

As the Latin phrase “Solvitur Ambulando” states, “It is solved through walking.” In other words, solutions emerge through action. 

Ultimately, happiness habits are not about denying life’s challenges. They are about equipping ourselves with the tools to navigate them more effectively. By consciously choosing our habits, we take back the reins from the “horse” and begin to direct our lives with intention.

Perhaps this is the most empowering truth of all: happiness isn’t something we find—it’s something we practice, one habit at a time.